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It Can Be Done When You Help – Young Families In Need

Last week, we turned away two families in need.  Impoverished, struggling, kids in foster care.  These children face the bleak realities of a life in foster care that results in 85% incarcerated, 99% with less than a college education, and a repetitious cycle of destruction.  All these families need is a few months of coaching and parenting classes. We turned them away.  Our funds are insufficient.  The state allocates no monies to help them where they need it. The county allocates no money to help them where they need it. Each depends on the faith community and non-profits to fill the gap.  Our hearts are bigger than our bank account.  The stream at our doorstep never ends.

It can be done when you help.

Sure, there are other “parenting” classes.  But, what they need is a passionate provision of coaching and workshops that engage them and allow them to heal and step forward. They are sent to us because we see results.  We see turnarounds.  We see families reunited.

It can be done when you help.


“In nearly 80% of low-income families with young children, parents do not have a postsecondary degree, which dramatically highlights the need to equip parents who have limited education with skills that can help them earn a family-supporting income. Additionally, the report emphasizes the need for federal and state agencies, along with businesses and community- and faith-based institutions, to work more closely together so that the whole family can succeed. ” Ann E. Casey Foundation

Would you sponsor a family?  To provide a loving and effective workshop for a family costs $450.00.  We already have raised the first $100 through local United Way support. We already have raised the second $100 through corporate donors.  We already have raised the third $100 through donated facilities.  Either you or the family pays that last $150.  When the family does not have it, they suffer.  The children suffer for a lifetime.

Really, I told the families to go ahead and register.  Something told me you would make up the difference.  So here is your opportunity. There are ways to help.  Fill out the form below and click Submit.  I will get back with you so you can give either secure online or by check.  (or just go direct now…)

Birthday Life Choices

Last year on this day, my birthday, Malachi’s adoption was final. This year and every year on my birthday I am reminded. What a great birthday present. What a great reminder every year on my birthday of the beauty of family and life. Because his biological parents chose life for him, our family is greater. They had other options, but they chose life. Lisa and Robb chose generosity and acceptance and life and our family is greater.


Just prior Pearl, another grandchild, experienced a traumatic life threatening condition in the womb and at birth. Jesse and Sarah chose to battle for life and she is healthy, strong and precious to our soul today by direct and Divine intervention. Choose life.

Choose life. Choose generosity. Choose graciousness.

When death and destruction presents itself as an option in the form of abortion, violence, bullying, harrassment, addiction, suicide, depression, anxiety, poverty, abuse, or anger, you have choices. You can fight it. You can learn life giving options. You can surround yourself in freedom and positive relationships.

For 38 years I have dedicated my life to showing others life giving options to death and destruction as a friend, pastor, and community activist. I do not regret a day. My wife reminded me that our opus is to offer the tired,the tormented,the terrorized,and the torn a way forward into a better life now, and for eternity.

The pains of the past can be healed. The problems of the day can be solved. The seemingly unconquerable struggles can be overpowered in Jesus.

I teach many research and evidenced based workshops of life giving change. Every word is tested and true and helps build that better life forward not because of the reseach but because of the author of Life. He designed it to work. Truth is not relative. It is solid. It is crafted by the mastermind of the Creator. We discovered it in our reseach. He also laid it out in His Life Instruction book, the Bible. This book is alive.

The solution will not be found in a higher power, some set of principles or pastry sayings on facebook or a false god. Quips and quotables will not get you there. You will be warmed and left wanting. The solution is Jesus. Only He offers life and life more abundantly. He is the Source of All Life. He is the Creator and Sustainer of Life. He is not a a five minute altar call, but a lifelong commitment. He is life. Start with Him. Bury yourself in Him and His life giving direction and example. Worship Him as Provider, Sustainer, Creator, Shepherd, Rightstanding, God over lessor gods, King over all kings, Lord over all lords, Boss over all bosses,. He is my God and my soon coming King. Meet Jesus face to face, heart to heart, and you will have chosen life everlasting. Maranatha. Selah.

Mental Health First Aid Rally

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This is a great opportunity to show yourself strong.
MHFA is for you. You need it. Your friends need you to have it. your family needs you to have it. Get registered. Power up meeting on Nov 11th at the Commons in OKC. FREE meeting.
Special pricing available for onsite training after this event for ministers and church workers because I want you to make the difference.


Certified Trainer: Phil Larson, the think dr.

Fixing Fracture Families



Life Long Dads. Kids Need ‘Em.

then you win….

“First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win.” Mahatma Ghandi

Pushing into uncharted waters is frightening and fulfilling.  Explorers, pioneers, and change agents look for adventure and results.  Adventure for the sake of adventure is expensive.  Adventure for the sake of results is life.

When I look over the progress of the creation of the SOLUM Community, there are days I can despair.  Goals govern growth.  How do we, you and us together,  do with the goals?

When I look over the progress of the creation of the SOLUM Community, there are days I jump for joy.  Results count.  How do we, you and us together,  do with the results?

This vision is simple Fixing Fractured Families and Life Long Dads. Kids Need ‘Em.  Those to statements drive us every day.  Families can be fixed.  The greatest medicine is a life long dad.

Families are fixed every day.  It is what YOU do.  By the hundreds, families are fixed every day.  They final moral integrity, personal responsibility, and community accountability through Solid Life Foundations, Healthy and Safe Relationships, and build Generations of Greatness.  Those are catch phrases, those are guiding lights of laser to keep us on track with power results.

You make it happen.  You are the trigger.  Whether you mentor in a workshop or encourage our team or give financially, YOU ARE THE CHANGE.  Thank you.

Read, listen or do both to our annual view of the world and solutions in motion status.

View of the World and Status on Fixing Fractured Families Sept 2017

Thank you for changing lives.

The SOLUM Community of Texoma I-35 Corridor

The hospitality of North Texas has been my joy for four years living in Gainesville. It is a continuing encouragement. That hospitality and a remnant of a strong-hearted people committed to family living, personal responsibility, moral integrity, and community accountability encourages me.

In the same years my joy is complete living in my other two cities, Oklahoma City and Crowder, Oklahoma on Lake Eufaula. Few get the joy of such a life.  Diligent work has afforded me ten bedrooms where I can lay my head any day, while some have none.

In the face of a disunity and discontent across our nation and in our local neighborhoods, some must take a stand for a new vision. In 2011, at the dare of 25 members of the Oklahoma House of Representatives. I locked in my cabin and finished research and editing on Time To Lead. While studying leaders in business, government, community, religion, and education, who led cultural change, a few principles became evident. 26 actions of one of the greatest world changers, Hezekiah, turned up in other men and women through history. Hezekiah lived all 26, the others like Ronald Reagan and Bill Clinton and Nelson Mandela and Martin Luther and Mother Teresa lived a few. Hezekiah at age 25 alongside his friends overturned a nation steeped in violence and abuse and self-destruction. The new norm became moral integrity, personal responsibility and community accountability. Given nothing but bad example by his father the king and that family, his course became set through faith and diligent study of national and relational principles that have stood the test of over 2700 years.

In 2012, I made the journey from corporate management and community engagement at city-wide levels to community engagement at the face to face level full time.

It is not my wish to replace Hezekiah in history. It is my wish to influence our national and neighborhood ripples.  Ripples make change.  Research in cultural change tell us that it only takes 10% of an area strongly adopting a philosophy or action to effect total change.  That is the tipping point.

The challenge of a life well lived from personal mentors like Dr. Ken Canfield, founder of the National Center Dr Fathering, and advisor to presidents and Dr. Frank Tunstall, international leader in missions, writer, university president and bishop, speak to me daily.  One person can make a difference.  You can be that one person.  I can be that one person.  Someone we don’t know yet can be that one person.

In 2014, that journey brought me to Gainesville alongside our other endeavors.

In our four years in this community, we have seen 307 graduates of 90 day workshops on congruent thinking and behavior, goal oriented life, strong and safe relationships, and resiliency under trauma.  Each goes back and changes their world.  20 hours and 90 days with weekly homework, discussion, action oriented is enough to build a different direction.  These are those on adult probation, juvenile probation, caregivers, parents, and some struggling with dysfunctional lifestyles advances enough to have children in foster care.  We work with the struggling and the wounded.  And we see results.

H is the daughter of one participant.  Mom took the life lessons home and reconnected with H.  H worked with me for 6 months across the glass in County Jail and built a new future.  She spent a year in rehab prison and is successfully living in Ft. Worth in a halfway house making a life transition.  Three boys relate to their grandfather for the first time in their life.  Four families are changed for good forever in the county through one mom taking what she learned to her daughters and ex-husband.

D lived addicted to meth for 14 years.  Through a workshop he changed his direction. He is now 4 years clean and works side by side with me encouraging others every week.  He has a good job and is being an involved father to his young daughter that she never had. 3.5 years later.

J came fresh from prison and was living in the Brother’s House.  In a workshop, he grumbled and struggled.  Then he connected. He began living principles of responding to the anger of others in such a manner that it changed the environment in his life.  He is four years sober and has helped countless others get and stay sober.  He has a good job and contributes to the community 3.5 years later.

W is married with three children.  Some came from his wife’s prior relationships.  He is connected to his children.  Drinking has stopped.  Staying home is important now.  His family is doing well.  2.5 years later.

R came from 30 years in prison and a life sentence for murdering his best friend.  At 52, he was alone on a bicycle.  After six months living with me and working alongside, he worked a good job, bought and paid for a vehicle, reconnected with his family, and is saftely living back in Arkansas, a new man.

On and on I can tell you stories in Cooke County, Texas of lives changed forever.  This is what we do.  This is what you do when are a part of the SOLUM Community.

Let’s skip forward.

There are four issues in our neighborhood and national community.  SOLUM works as a chaplain to 3000 legislators across 34 states.  Pray and encouragement and information on family and child issues go from us regularly.  We are a voice for change.  SOLUM works across hundreds of churches and ministries doing the same.  Leaders need leaders.  The issues we address are not just local, but they are certainly local.

Our nation has become ASOCIAL.  Books like “Bowling Alone” talk to our pain.  Social media has stormed our communications and only recently become face to face.  I do bible studies weekly linking people in Mexico and multiple states in the USA. Something is moving to change that.

Here in Gainesville, families take their children to neighboring cities for education, while some of the greatest educators in the nation lead our schools.  Why?  Why leave the community of concern and competency to go somewhere less connected to my neighborhood?  Is it part of that ASOCIAL thought train?  Something else?

Pablo De Santiago reported to me that last week 110 showed up for Watch DOGS at Edison Elementary.  Committed to show up, promote families with both parents engaged, display fathering as fashionable, make a difference.  That is huge.  Trust me. We have over 3000 Watch DOGS programs nationally, and 110 is big news.  Wow.  Attendance in our Gainesville schools has been climbing year over year under the watchful guidance of Dr. Brasher.  We have a future.

Our churches are losing attendance nationally and locally.  It is a group of 77 churches with a heart to change the new urban/rural communities that sponsored me to come here in the beginning.  Our community groups are losing connection locally and nationally.  We need a community connection.

Our nation has become AMORAL. Since 1960 the ASOCIAL trend has also become a lack of moral center.  There is little community standard.  Our standard today for business and community is “stay legal” or find a way around it.  That is not much of a standard.  Hammurabi had a code.  The English had the Magna Carta.  We are vacant.  Church attendance, a good measure of moral center has gone from 60% to 15% and is dropping.  East Coast is less than 2%.  Our own high school is less than 4% and headed down.  My pastor friend in Franklin, New Hampshire was ecstatic recently.  This town of 15000 in a county of 45000 is one of the 2% areas.  In Franklin there is the Catholic Church and his church, not many more.  Certainly, not the hundred we have here.  Another church started.  He is happy.  We work with him on community impact.  We need a moral standard.  It comes from a 10% adherence to a standard and a vocal discourse that puts it in front of others.  Right now, we can’t even agree on a national anthem.

Our nation and neighborhood has become AMARITAL.  It is not about the definition of marriage.  It is about marriage at all. Two weeks ago in a teen group I lead I asked about goals.  Where do you see yourself in relationships?  One 14-year-old responded, “I want a normal relationship.  I’m not going to get married.”  I work with her mom also.  All the teens in the room nodded approval except 2.  7 out of 9 of our future believe marriage is not normal.  41% of children today are born with no marriage.  That is unheard of in history.  What have we become in Cooke County and beyond?  Thank God for men and parent and teachers like Edison that declare a difference.  Get fathers in the game. Get them visible.  Get them committed.  We don’t need sperm donors, the normal name I get for fathers among adults on probation, we need men, fathers, dads, committed and connected.

Our nation and neighborhood has become AMESS.  The violence is incredible.  Our young men in their 20s and 30s make up the highest group involved in domestic violence.  Our teens at 30% carry weapons with intent to use them.  See me about the research. This is reality.  The preponderance of death in youth is violent accidents and suicide in that order.  Men over 55 are making up a new suicide trend.  Opioid addictions are escalating and heroin in back with a vengeance as a cheaper alternative to prescription pain killers and neuropathic drugs for anxiety and depression.  We are a mess.

Gosh, Phil, don’t you love me?  How can you point out all this?  What do we do?

Stay with me.  There are great solutions in motion and we can invent more.  To deny this reality however is to emulate an ostrich with his head in the sand.  It only takes 11% to break the cycle and move a different direction, but they must be adamant, not just interested.  That is only 1600 citizens of Gainesville or 4000 of the county.  It is enough.

While I was online in a FB Radio Live interview based in Oklahoma City in the Black community last week, a young woman from Gainesville asked online, “What can we do?”  Let’s talk about it.

SOLUM works on four fronts alongside other organizations, education, community, government, and churches.  The promotion of personal responsibility, moral integrity, and community accountability in a family environment can bring us a different day for our children and grandchildren and great grandchildren.  Sure, we’ve made a mess of it.  It is our mirror into which we must look. It is our leadership that must step up and stand out.

Our first thrust is with Community Education for sensible thinking and problem solving.  All three areas are addressed.  Good thinking skills, good relational skills, and good problem solving can promote a great life.  Evidence and research based training over 90 days helps settle skills into a potential lifestyle change.  We work with Community Supervision (probation officers) and the courts to make a difference.

Alongside the THINK workshops we do parenting in the same audience and with couples where the state has taken custody due to abuse and neglect.  Get the families stabilized.  Promote family unity.  We’ve seen several families reunited and some that ended in termination.  We will pursue.

Our second thrust is among juvenile probationers.  Through relational and thinking and trauma sensitive evidence and research based workshops, we affect the toughest family situations.  A teen in trouble is a family in trouble.  It usually has many extensions into other families.  Yesterday one of our grads came proudly up to me at his job and talked about his future.  He was on probation every year one year at a time from age 11 to 16.  He is off probation.  One day in the Walmart parking lot someone was yelling. Eventually I discerned it was my name they were yelling.  It was a teen grad six months out.  She came and gave me a hug along with her mother.  She had been on probation for attacking mom and almost killing her.  Now they were friends.  She told me she used her workbook at least once a week at high school to help her make decisions.  We work with the parents that will work with us also.  They attend parenting. There are some great stories here and some heartbreak.

Our third area of thrust is Mental Health First Aid.  As a certified trainer with the National Institute of Behavioral Health, we promote the most accepted response for depression, anxiety, ptsd, suicide, self harm and other pains.  In our lifetime, 42% of adults will have a diagnosable mental health issue, blip, incident, challenge.  That is either me or you and if it affects you then it affects me, too.  You are my neighbor.  Mental Health First Aid is the initial help offered to a person developing a mental health or substance use problem or experiencing a mental health crisis. The first aid is given until appropriate treatment and support are received or until the crisis resolves.  You can be trained.  I believe every adult in the United States should be trained.  I can bandage a cut, I need to be able to apply salve to a wounded heart or mind.

Our fourth area of thrust is direct intervention.  Through onsite personal encouragement and mentorship across the glass at county jail and onsite as a pastoral counselor, we make a difference.  Through developing other pastors and church planters across the nation to do something and engage their ministries in life developing patterns, we make a difference.  Through working on that 10% tipping point of engaged belief that fathers are significant and families count, through talking to you and legislators and other groups and asking you to action, through authoring books and building insight like Time to Lead and By Grace and Manage Well, we make a difference. Through blogging and teaching via social media, we make a difference.

I want you to be a part of that difference.

  • Go to and browse. Sign up for mental health first aid. That is the first step to becoming a mentor. Cooke County needs mentors for every Life Skills class both adult and juvenile.  Cooke County needs mentors for parenting.    Coaches. Trained to do the right thing.  You are the difference.
  • If that doesn’t fit right now then click under Be a Mentor on Life Foundations and let’s talk.
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Rejoicing in the Good, When Hard Has Been the Journey

Fixing Fractured Families: That is a worthy goal. As a leader, I want families fixed. Maybe you do to. There are different ways to get it done, but it is hard work no matter what way you work on it. Resistence is assured, friend. What happens when you finally have a victory against a string of hard struggle? Whether it is my struggle to see families fixed or you have a different struggle, the principles are the same. Friend, I think today of the many struggles of recovery in the South USA from weather and North from fires and our culture in all parts to find a unity of heart and purpose.
Psalm 16:9 Therefore my heart is glad, and my whole being rejoices; my flesh also dwells secure. ESV
That’s why my heart celebrates and my mood is joyous; yes, my whole body will rest in safety CEV
Therefore my heart is glad and my tongue rejoices; my body also will rest secure NIV
Every so often, you will find a verse in the original language that defies exact matching translation from different eras and interpretive groups.  This one fits that description.  Many times, it is because an idiomatic phrase is contained or there is such emotion and expression, it is hard to put into a single phrase.   So let me expand this one.
My heart is glad and celebrates in great joy.  With my whole being inside and out, I am excited and alive; my tongue must shout and declare this joy.  It cannot be contained or restrained.  A great sense of peace and restfulness and security envelops my body and mind and spirit.  Phil’s version
Entering In: Entering in to health and joy is many times is preceded by great struggle and pain.  Our habits become acclimated to the struggle.  Our daily routines become expectant of the pain.  A friend going through back surgery shared some of her story.  The doctors instructed her that ghost pain would continue for some time.  Though the surgery is successful and removes even some nerve endings, our minds are trained to find pain at times of day and particular motions.  The pain is not there physiologically.  Yet, the pain is there in our minds.  The conditioning of ill health forms a barrier even when we are healed to enjoying the new freedom.
Rested Health: Now, that quotation that is a picture of great health and well being.  That is a picture of restful trust in God and God alone.  That is a picture of one that has wrestled with God and found Him to be more interested in securing our hearts that controlling our actions.  That is a picture of one, who has encountered fierce angers and pains and problems and illness and has come through to a new realization that the presence and leading of the Father brings us to refreshing and rest.  That is a wonderful picture. Is it attainable?
Breaking Conditional Barriers: In my own experience, I find it difficult to rest after an intense time of development of a business thrust or a strained season with a client.  Though the situation is ended and the issues are resolved, my daily expectation of another problem wrestles with my restfulness.  A wise executive once commented to me, “Even when we receive a new and different and positive answer, we hear the old negative one that is so common.”  He did not say it just like that, but you get the point.
There must be a time of “glory rejoicing” to break the conditional barriers of ill health and negative situations.  Celebrate.  This unspeakable joy works internally for us to remove scar tissues and sensitive nerves of mind and will and emotion and body.  Then we can receive the new and positive situation and answer.  This transition must happen.  It is a barrier breaker.
Returns at Customer Service: Discount retailers dedicate a large area for returned and damaged merchandise.  It is not a happy place.  There is not a lot of smiling for anyone.  When you find a smiling employee working that area, your frustration is defused at having to come back to the store. The transaction becomes more pleasant.  That employee is giving a rejoicing to a healing situation.  The item is broken.  You are receiving a replacement.  That should be joyful.  Yet, you lost value when you tried to use it at home and it broke.  You lost positive expectation and trust.  Now, the item and positive expectation must return before you can get full value.
Broken bones and aching hearts and rent emotions and lingering illness in our body cause us to lose positive expectation and trust in God.  We expect nothing.  Worse than that, we expect bad.  We expect anger and frustration and continuance of a wrong situation.   And we get what we expect until we expectantly express ourselves into a different result after the new answer of health and healing and restoration and replacement is received.
Father, there is a great life available through You and Your presence and Your word for me and for this friend. 
You are life.
You are healing.
You are “Yes” to all Your promises.
You are “Amen” to all Your commitments.
Cause rejoicing to resound in the camp of out heart.  Let us release the joy of the moment that heals and conditions us to hear, “Yes, you are healed.”
Walk with us today, Father, as You heal negative expectation built on real experience with tough living. Let joys restore a new hearing and receptivity to our full health.
Family Facts: The effort is worth it.  In our thrust to find solutions in the new urban/rural of the USA, we’ve seen good results that are sustainable.  Check them out at
Phil Larson, Director SOLUM Community Transformation Initiative
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United and Engaged

A frank discussion with Anesha Alexandria over unity and engaging disenfranchised community.


prayer for peace and restoration, Friend, in a time of destruction and loss.

As the Americas reel from the destructive force of natural disaster, the words of Esther come to mind. “For how can I endure to see the evil that will come to my people? Or how can I endure to see the destruction of my countrymen?” Esther 8:6

Our nation has suffered an enormous loss of property, life, and safety during this battering. How can I endure seeing the destruction that has come to friends, Friend? How can I endure the destruction of my countrymen?

Esther received a solution and a hope in her situation. She received a reversal of the situation for others and a plan to continue in blessing.

So I pray today and ask you to join with me, Friend,for:

A hope and a peace for all those affected in the aftermath of this disaster.

A strength and an endurance for all pummeled in this storm.

A restoration of property and a sense of security to all those uprooted and whose lives will never be the same.

A reestablishment of life and business and community and neighborhood as quickly as possible.

A sure faith in the future for all that this too will pass and a new day will dawn with new solutions for these communities.

Wisdom and decisiveness for leaders and rescue workers and engineers and those looking to reconstruct and replace and secure.

In Him,