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Through the Eyes of a Father’s Heart

2009 fdsummit 017“Bring to me what You have spoken of me.”

Genesis 18:19 19 For I have known him, in order that he may command his children and his household after him, that they keep the way of the LORD, to do righteousness and justice, that the LORD may bring to Abraham what He has spoken to him.”

“Bring to me, God, what you have spoken of me.” That is my prayer. I want what Abraham had. Every day for a week, I have prayed it all day long. In the night, I wake praying that prayer. In just a few days, we launch a major initiative for Fathers and Leaders. It will take enormous time, talent, and finances. Anything worth doing will meet resistance on all fronts.

This New Year, as I consider next steps, my heart turns toward my physical and spiritual and relational children. All are important. As a Dad, the children of my wife, Dian, and I are precious. They count a lot in my thinking and praying. As a pastor of some 30 years in the same metro and now assisting in Mexico and across the United States, spiritual children who look to me for guidance and leadership are priceless. As a businessman and manager and community participant, those that look to me for direction are powerfully on my mind. As a personal mentor of men, those that look to me are present in my thoughts. In all of these ways people have been impacted and had direction pushed into their lives through example.

“Bring to me, God, what you have spoken of me.”

Abraham was a commander of lives.  Command pushes.  Command influences.  Command is generally not gentle.  In Genesis 18:19, God tells us that Abraham received so that he could ‘command’ into the lives of his children and his grandchildren and his community.  He was to command righteousness and justice.  He was to command the way of the Lord.  God gave to Abraham what He had spoken of him because He could trust him to live the message into the lives of others.  Abraham was a generational influencer.  God gave him much because of that.

“Bring to me, God, what you have spoken of me.”

Abraham was a harvester of lives.  What he commanded into others brought back to him the promised blessing. Through Isaac and his sons, Jacob and Esau, nations were born.  Through Ishmael and his sons came nations.  Entire people groups were birthed out of Abrahams fathering.  He was known among the peoples of the area and respected and followed as an example.  Not many dared mess with Abraham.

“Bring to me, God, what you have spoken of me.”

Boy, I sure don’t measure up to Abraham.  On the other hand, I need to.  Every father does.  Every businessperson does. Every pastor does.  Every community leader does.  We need to measure up.  Our stature needs to go up not down.  The world is a downward measuring stick.  Someone like Abraham is an upward measuring stick.  We need to measure up.  Our lives should flow over into others that they would change.  Our lives should change our world not just bounce off it.

“Bring to me, God, what you have spoken of me.”

Daily thankfulness for all God has done impresses on me.  There is a reason for His bringing to me what He has promised of me.  There need to be bridges into the lives of others over which the blessing is carried in the ways of God, righteousness, and justice.  Those bridges are built on trust and honesty and walking in the ways of the God of righteousness and justice.  I am thankful and I am sober.

“Bring to me, God, what you have spoken of me.”

 The prayer is dangerous.  You are accountable to do something with what He brings.  This journey is not just about hoarding.  It surely is not about living with the world’s definition of humility.  Humility is power and presence under control and right realization that God is in control not us.  Great humility is only displayed when we have great resource.

“Bring to me, God, what you have spoken of me.”

 Prayer is meant to change us.  This one will change you from the inside out.  Are you prepared to handle God delivering everything He has spoken of you in His word?  Get prepared.  Focus on being prepared.  Quit pretending in faith and make living God’s way in righteousness and justice a priority.  Make sure your life is adequate and your bridges are in place.  Then pray that prayer in faith believing.  Your family, friends, neighbors, coworkers, congregants, and others are depending on you doing just that.  Your Father is depending on you doing just that.  He is ready.  There is much for which to be thankful.  There is much more He would like to perform even as He has spoken of you.

“Bring to me, God, what you have spoken of me.”

Have a great New Year in 2013.  Remember what God has done for you.  Expect more.  Remember that what He has done for you He did so that you could pass it on.  Have a great New Year for a couple of weeks.  Have a great New Year every day of your life and the days of the lives of those who follow you.  New Year is a heritage.  Pass it on in prayer.

Fathers Disappear From Households Across The US

Fifteen million U.S. children, or 1 in 3, live without a father. (AP photo)“Nicole Hawkins‘ three daughters have matching glittery boots, but none has the same father. Each has uniquely colored ties in her hair, but none has a dad present in her life.

As another single mother on Sumner Road decked her row-house stoop with Christmas lights and a plastic Santa, Ms. Hawkins recalled that her middle child’s father has never spent a holiday or birthday with her. In her neighborhood in Southeast Washington, 1 in 10 children live with both parents, and 84 percent live with only their mother.”

Read the rest of this insightful article by Luke Rosiak… Click Here

Luke includes an analytic tool based on census tract at the end of the article.  Use it and review your community.  Our hope at the Center is you will take action to do something, not just read.  Contact us for action plans in Oklahoma where you can connect in person and online worldwide.

Interrupting Anger and Violence… Dads can do it.. #EYE2EYE @shepherdok #FathersCount

Healthy societies stand on the shoulders of  healthy intact families.

Pat Nash

“Only in the past few years have there been in-depth studies establishing the value of authoritative, loving, accessible and responsible fathers on the lives of their children. The results reinforce what I learned directly from working with troubled kids.”

Insightful Article by Pat Nash in Baraboo News Republic

“So dads, be a big part of your children’s lives. Share physical activities; don’t be afraid to set limits and be consistent in enforcing them; teach them how to be independent; share chores with them; encourage their academic success and support their dreams, even if you have a different goal for their futures. Tell them you love them. Teach them how to be responsible by being so yourself. Because whether you realize it or not, they’re watching. It’s a tall order, but their futures depend on you.”

The Rock of Power – Positive Fathers

At the end of the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus closes by saying, “Whoever hears these words of mine, and does them, shall be likened to a wise man who built his house upon a rock: and the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house, and it fell not, for it was founded upon a rock.” [Matthew 7: 24-25]


Of all the rocks upon which we build our lives, we are reminded today that family is the most important. And we are called to recognize and honor how critical every father is to that foundation. They are teachers and coaches. They are mentors and role models. They are examples of success and the men who constantly push us toward it.

But if we are honest with ourselves, we’ll admit that what too many fathers also are is missing – missing from too many lives and too many homes. They have abandoned their responsibilities, acting like boys instead of men. And the foundations of our families are weaker because of it.

Barak Obama Father’s Day 2008

Obama’s Father’s Day Speech Urges Black Fathers To Be More Engaged In Raising Their Children http://ow.ly/gkhpq

Dads earn more while mothers earn less Press release :: IPPR

Recent UK based research concerning men born in the 70’s brings insights into fatherfulness and the Power of    Fathering.  Men took the responsibility seriously in this generation.  They pursued longer hours and made money appear from hard work and discipline.  It is not that they were fathers that brought them more money.  It was for many of them, that providing for their families became a higher priority when they became fathers.

Surely, there is a power and energy and determinism in a committed father that even produces more income for his family.  The power of positive fathering.

Dads earn more while mothers earn less Press release :: IPPR.

To all my friends in every place Merry Christmas

To all my friends in every place
Merry Christmas to you in love and grace.
May your days be merry and nights be joy.
May you find a surprise and even a toy!
Stay childlike in believing you can accomplish anything
With enough tenacity and passion and pursuit and dream.
Enjoy you days resting and connecting with friends.
May family be peaceful and broken ties mend.
Have a good Christmas week and New Years rest.
Wishes and prayers that 2013 is your best.

Who is missing in this article?

Who is missing in this article?   It is incredibly well written and illustrates the toughness of families struggling with hard, hard issues.


Think hard… Pray

Generation Xbox: ‘Alarming’ drop in fathers reading to children in UK

Generation Xbox: ‘Alarming’ drop in fathers helping children to read – Education News – Education – The Independent http://ow.ly/gbhGE

The Prayer For Father/Leader

Over 20 years of praying for leaders and fathers and families is embedded in this prayer.  Take time to go through the complete prayer and then feel free to come back at anytime and just skip to the concise prayer at the end.

Stay blessed.

A Note To Christians on The Face of God…

Angela Larson Fashimpaur (yes, my daughter)
Okay, this is enough…I’ve recently seen several posts & viral pictures to the effect of “If only God/The Bible were still allowed in schools…” First of all, God is ever-present (Ps 46:1), it is not possible to ban Him from any location. Second, for those who are Christians and have received the Holy Spirit – He LIVES in YOU! This means that everywhere a Christian walks, he takes the very spirit of God with him (Galations 2:22, 1 John 4:12, John 14:23). Third, the bible has not been banned in the U.S. Teachers/school employees are not allowed lead students in prayer, proselytize their faith to students while at school, or use the bible for religious instruction, but both employees and students are absolutely permitted to be in possession of a bible at school. Furthermore, the bible in many states (I can’t speak for all of them) is recognized as a piece of literature and accepted in comparative religion and literary studies.
The purpose of this is not to debate, but to encourage those who question where God was yesterday at Sandy Hook Elementary School or whether He is present at your child’s school. God is present, He is alive, and He is victorious over death. Evil is present, awful things happen, God is still present and victorious. I cannot answer for you that guttural cry for “why.” I don’t know why God allowed this to happen, but I do know that the response He desires from us is to press into Him for comfort, cry out to Him for mercy, and count on Him for justice “If my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then will I hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and will heal their land,” (II Chronicles 7:14).
If we are concerned for God’s presence in our schools, let us gather together in prayer and invite His presence. Intercede for your schools, teach your children to pray, bring Christ to your schools with YOUR presence