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“Are you a dad?”

“Are you a dad?”
This was the third child to ask me.  What a strange question.
“I don’t have a dad,” said her voice.
“I’ve never had a dad,” said her eyes.
“I don’t know what a dad looks like,” said her soul.
Dads are like unicorns in this neighborhood.  You read about them in books at school, but you’ve never talked to one or rode on his back or petted his mane.  You’ve seen some men, but none really act like the stories in the books at school.  Those are fairy tales.
“Are you a dad?”
Now there was hope in her voice.
“Yes, I’m a dad and were going to bring more dads to your school.”
Dark eyes turned bright.  A huge smile broadened on her face as she turned back to the herd of other kids who have never seen a dad.  She was the brave scout sent to see if this was real.  Now she could report.  “Dads are real and they are coming to our school.”
Her heart shouted louder than her voice.  “Maybe there is a dad for me?”

A Holy Experience – After Steubenville:

A Holy Experience – After Steubenville: 25 Things Our Sons need to know about Manhood http://ow.ly/p5bs3

Fathering Hall of Fame Inductees Sept 16th, 2013

Ecstatic Lee Roland inducted into the Fathering Hall of Fame.

Ecstatic Lee Roland inducted into the Fathering Hall of Fame.

Lee Roland

Lee is the 6th son of Dewitt and Eula Roland. He has one younger sister. He married Wanda Roland on December 22, 1979. They have two children, Irving 32 years old and Chanel 27 years old. Lee is a minister at Saint Luke Baptist Church, where his father pastored for 30 years before passing away. In his free time, he loves to play golf and spend time with his family.

Mr. Lee Roland has been an educator and administrator for over 20 years. Lee has always labored exhaustively yet ardently in the field to both serve and meet the needs of students, parents, and teachers – it’s his “calling.”  His dedication and determination is clearly evident as he unceasingly endeavors to inspire and propel others who serve, to touch lives and make a difference, particularly for children.

In addition to enjoying great success in his roles of building principals and central office administration, Lee has spoken and presented at numerous conferences, venues and workshops across the state and country, particularly on the subjects of character education and teacher efficacy.  Mr. Roland has and continues to serve on numerous city and community boards, all involving the welfare of children.  In short, Lee Roland believes that it is the responsibility of educators and adults to improve our society via public education, which he passionately strives to do each and every single day – yes, “leave no child behind”!

Finally, Mr. Roland is an associate minister at St. Luke Baptist Church in Spencer.  Among his most cherished roles is children’s church minister and Sunday school teacher. Lee has conducted revivals, family retreats, and preached across the city, state, and country.  He has also been involved with many other initiatives in ministry, civic, and professionally. However, he is simply most grateful to be one of God’s soldiers on the battlefield with a goal of one day hearing the Father say: “Well done my good and faithful servant.”

Kevin makes a point

Kevin Hill driving home a passionate plea.

Kevin C. Hill
Married for 28 years to Richinda Hill.

He and his wife has 2 children from this blessed union. Kacy 26 and Kayla 23.. 1 Granddaughter Milena 15 months.
Kevin has immersed himself in the area of elementary education for over 28 years as a Teacher, Coach, Headmaster, Assistant Principal and Principal. He has been blessed with numerous accommodations for his commitment and passion for the betterment of children, to include being named site teacher of the year, Mid-Del Teacher of the Year, and State Finalist for Teacher of the Year. He currently serves as the Principal of Epperly Heights Elementary in Del City.

Kevin has honorably served his country by being part of the Oklahoma Air National Guard for over 15 years.  He has achieved the rank of Master Sergeant and currently serves as the 137 ARW First Sergeant of the Logistic Readiness Squadron. MSgt. Hill has been decorated with numerous service ribbons to include the Meritorious Service Medal, Air Force Achievement Medal, National Defense Service Medal, and the Air Force Longevity Medal to name a few.

Kevin is active in his community as well. He is a member and Assistant Pastor at Praise Assembly Ministries in Del City. He is the President Elect for the Del City Rotary Club. He has been a member of the Midwest City Kiwanis, Midwest City Citizen Police Academy, Tinker AFB Community Star Program, Del City Chamber Member, Epperly Heights Neighborhood Watch Association and others.

Photo Archive Champion Fathers Tourney and Luncheon

Kevin Hill, Fathering Hall of Fame

Kevin Hill, Fathering Hall of Fame

Life Church is a key partner at Tulakes Elementary.

Life Church is a key partner at Tulakes Elementary.

Packed house Kevin makes a point

Hole in One attempt with PFS team

Hole in One attempt with PFS team

Dr. Jemison, community leader.

Dr. Jemison, community leader.

Hon. James Lankford Lee Roland and Family

Ecstatic Lee Roland inducted into the Fathering Hall of Fame.

Ecstatic Lee Roland inducted into the Fathering Hall of Fame.

Discussing options.

Discussing options.

Will you give?

Will you give?

Director Phil Larson and Carey Casey, CEO of the National Center For Fathering lock arms.

Director Phil Larson and Carey Casey, CEO of the National Center For Fathering lock arms.

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The Time To Get This Done Is Right Now!

SOLUM Community Transformation Initiative

This update takes 2 minutes to read and understand.

philsittingmapThe time to get this done is right now.  Build a father. Build a child. Build a generation.  Put healthy, dedicated men in front of our kids.

This map of high fatherless census tracts in OKC disturbs me.  Epidemic fatherless homes plague our community, our state, and
our nation.

Change is possible and probable with your support.  We aren’t talking, we are acting in neighborhoods, schools, and homes.

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On Sept 16th,  National community leaders such as Carey Casey, CEO of the National Center for Fathering, and Hon. James Lankford, U.S. House of Representatives, mixed with local legislators, pastors, business leaders, education leaders, non-profit leaders, media leaders, and international church leaders in a powerful dynamic.  The energy and interchange overflowed for hours and continues as leaders connect heart to heart with other leaders on a national malaise.  Our fatherless culture needs revision. …

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The Time To Get This Done Is Right Now!

Take time to read through and meet or two inductees into the Fathering Hall of Fame in 2013

https://prayermetro.wordpress.com/2013/07/15/the-time-to-get-this-done-is-right-now/

Common Angst on Fathering – Give Good Guidance

Who is angry?

Who is concerned?

Who is making noise?

Who is doing something?

A comment on a reblog made me think more deeply on this subject.  Unfortunately, I let my own disgust with life leak out through someone else’s blog.  Overcome evil with good.  Don’t let evil and anger become the standard.

Community angst over public displays of disgust in entertainment rose recently.  Did anyone take action?  Did anyone write a concerned note to the sponsors of the shows?  Did anyone check a product list the next time they shopped and pick an alternate product?  Did anyone turn off like-minded shows?

America is on a one way infatuation trip with sensuality.  Shows like Two and Half Men, Bachelor, Dancing with The Stars, reveal an unreal focus on sex as life.

Sex is not life.  It is a holy portion of a great life.  It is a joined expression of marital love.  At least, that is the created intent.  Like other parts of life, we tend to use beauty for ashes.

Community angst jumped visibly with a Miley Cyrus / Ron Thicke routine.  What about Dancing with the Stars where the sensuality and lack of clothing among strangers is common?  Is that ok?  Is Hooters and Twin Peaks and sales by sensuality so okay with us that we don’t notice anymore?

Fathers have a responsibility to teach a different standard.  By giving good guidance to their sons and daughters in their behaviors, they can change the curve.

Fathers – turn off sensuality on your media.  Shake yourself.  What is the theme of what you are watching in front of your children and in your private?  For much of what is being displayed there is no maturity level where it is acceptable.  It is wrong.  Quit fooling yourself.  Turn it off.  I’ve found it helpful to just move to Netflix where I can skip commercials and control content.

Fathers – don’t buy what is sold with sex.  Get sensitive.  When you see a product sold by sensuality whether it is toothpaste or potato chips or beer or an automobile, make a list and shop for alternative product.  Be visible with your family on this one.

Fathers – watch your eyes.  Are they wandering?  Do you really think others don’t see where your head turns on the street?

Fathers – accentuate the good in life.  Talk about  real beauty of the soul and heart.  Emphasize good living and helpful action.  Your teens should be saying things like, “Dad, get real.  People just aren’t that good.”  They should be saying that because you are talking against the curve of negativity and use of individuals and focused on positive and helping emphasis.

Fathers – have good healthy male relationships.  Spend time with other men.  Let your kids and others know about it.  Let them know you value healthy living by valuing it. Quit walking alone.  It leads to sensuality focus.  It does.

Fathers – stay in tune.  I read facebook posts and blogs by twenty-somethings regularly to keep my understanding level open.  It is shocking.  It causes me to weep and pray. The loneliness and reaching out for attention by so many is hard to take.  Make it a matter of prayer.

There is a lot of good out there.  Find the good.  Focus on it.  Attend to evil.  Focus away from it.  Offer help and friendship to your children and others based on a full life.  Sex is not life.  Life is not sex.