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Fashionable is…. responsible fathering, family, and friendship

Community Transformation Initiative, friend, is an active, ongoing concern.

Good day, my friend. How often does someone say, “Good day” o “Buen Dias” to you? Do they mean it? I do. And I’m willing to make it happen, not just say it. This battle must be fought, friend.
A few twenty-somethings working on life skills wrote these notes back. It is a beginning for each of them.

I believe I have learned to know now what my true feeling are, and how to act when I feel angry.

I’ve learned : Understanding how I got here. Negotiating problems. Responding to anger.

I am better at talking to people. I also know how to control my anger better.

I’d like to help others the way I wanted to get helped

To step back and think about the issue, problem, or analyze the scenario fully before you attempt to deal with it to get the best possible outcome.

I know what I have wanted to change but laying it all (out) has really helped me put my plans into action.

That is real stuff. Real curbside change. It is a start. It is a good start for them, their children, their families, and their friends.

A hard question comes to me often. What do you do when the foundations are destroyed, %FirstName%?
Respond to fractured families, uncommitted fathers, divorce as a lifestyle, addiction and co dependency as a normative, violence as a status quo, and me-ism as the accepted point of decision. Hmmm. Move that cultural malaise to moral integrity, personal responsibility, and community accountability. Stabilize and repair and launch into positive success one person, one family, one neighborhood, one community, one state, and one nation at a time.
The answer is simple but not easy. If it was easy, it would over. The battle rages. It must be fought.
Two weeks ago I was in Chicago working with 40 businesses in a workshop on strategic planning at an industry conference. Bouncing off business leaders keeps me sharp. Three weeks ago I was in OKC as part of a think-tank of 100+ business and community leaders asking that foundation question. Networking enables fresh thought. Every week I’m in Gainesville, Texas and Oklahoma City face up with individuals and groups working on the solutions through Life Skills, Dad’s University, Family Builders, and personal one-one. This is the grassroots touch and change activity. Regularly legislators are challenged (we have 3300 on our list). Influencers need support. This battle must be fought.
What are you doing? How are you focusing your time and energy and giving to make that foundation move? How can I help you get the job done?
Three questions come to me in every one of these situations. Who am I? What am I chasing? What differentiates?
Who am I? CTI is a skill building, problem solving assistance for individuals and families and communities. We use research and evidence based approaches alongside personal intervention strategies focused on fathering, parenting, and relationship. Life Skills, Dad’s University, and Family Builders course approaches put feet on the ground in the community. Joint events open new eyes with information and influence.
What am I chasing? Community change to moral integrity, personal responsibility, and community accountability from the household to influencers in government, education, business, religion, and community. We want responsible and healthy fathering and families and friendships to be fashionable and desired.
What differentiates? No fear. From curbside to board room. Community networking and integration of efforts.
How can I help you? Where can I come alongside, %FirstName%? This battle must be fought.
What do you do when the foundations are destroyed? Take these three questions and apply them to your activity and giving. Put your time, talent and treasure to work effectively.
Prayer: Father, I pray for a good day for my friend. I pray for good family and good friendship to surround them. I pray for moral integrity, personal responsibility, and community accountability to overtake fractured families around them. Give my friend influence to bring a Good Day to a friend and to a family member. Bring a Good Day that builds a good week that influences a good month that enables a good year that stabilizes, repairs, and launches positive results that last a lifetime. Do it, Father. Come alongside and fight this battle for right living, joy, and peace in Your Holy Spirit, in our lives. Your kingdom come. Your will be done. On our curbside.

Give Now! Give Continually.

Phil Larson 405-388-8037
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Share every good thing you have with anyone who teaches you what God has said (CEV) Galatians 6:6
I am not trying to get something from you, but I want you to receive the blessings that come from giving. Philippians 4:17