One of the most common names for fathers today among teen girls is “sperm donor”. Yes, it is common and frequent. Ask anyone working with young women. That is an name of anger and angst. Why would any daughter call her father such a name? Why is it so common.
I hope you are a father of teen or twenty-something daughter reading this note. You need to change. You need to do something significant in your family, relationship, and community.
Over the years in OKC, we’ve sponsored hundreds of couples of men and their teens and twenty-something daughters in conjunction with a Father/Daughter Summit. They come into the door with enough room between them for another person to walk. They leave side by side. A miracle happens on those days.
It is harder and harder to make that happen. Overall fatherless families are on a major rise. The worse trend is that overall births to unmarried women are on the rise among women in their twenties, thirties, and forties. This is not a teenage trend. It is a national epidemic. Over 40% of births fall into the unmarried category. Fifty years ago this was less than 1% and mostly young teens. Now it is becoming a norm. It is unheard of in history.
Women have been abandoned by a most important male. Fathers have flown the coop. Sperm donors don’t inspire stable families for future generations. Why would you get married to a man, who is headed out the door? Why not just do it on your own?
Take a hard look at the numbers. The increase in unmarried births among all races is escalated at frightening percentages.
What can a man do when the foundations are being destroyed?
Men, you have the power to turn the tide. You can be more than a sperm donor. You can be a caring and listening man to your daughter. You can be a visible and compassionate example to daughters in the community alongside your wife.
. As a couple, choose to mentor a young woman.
. As a man, be there for your daughter.
. As a man, get control of your eyes and actions.
. As a man, speak well of women and quit your griping.
. As a couple, be visible in the community in loving leadership.
. As a man, find a place to serve outside your isolation.