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Love is Not Shady

loveisnotshadyLove conquers, friend.

I Corinthians 13:4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

In this oft quoted clip from Paul’s instructional letter to groups in a society marked by anger, avarice, greed, and selfish ambition, we see a few aspects of love. Paul birthed and nutured a work among the people and wanted a mark of compassion, mercy, consideration, graciousness, patience, and cooperation.

Love can be passionate, friendly, family, unconditional or all four. When love expresses itself in control, abuse, violence, and exploitation, we wonder if there is any love at all. We make laws to protect people against such expressions.

I pray real love that serves others surrounds you and your family and friends, friend. Our society is torn. One of the top books and movies of our time romanticizes exploitation. As this movie releases over the St. Valentine’s weekend, my heart is heavy. The sickness of our society flows in the streets. Every day, I face men and women who are exploited or are exploiting others. I face them with offers to come out to a different lifestyle. I know you as a leader, do also.

To romanticize deep emotional and physical scars strikes me as aberrant. Our nation deserves a better life forward. People need to know it is okay to become okay.

I pray, friend, that you are covered with compassion, consideration, confidence, commitment, patience, affirmation, appreciation, support, comfort, and concern.

I pray, friend, that you pour those qualities into every decision you make.

I pray for our communities, states, and nation that we honor and raise high standards of community covenant and strength based on love that never fails.

The Mission

logo2.pngWe commit to a better life for our community. We commit to a life full of graciousness and peace.  We commit to develop fathers, parents, and community leaders full of grace and peace.  We commit to offer this grace and peace in education, events, and encouragement.

Phil Larson 405-388-8037  phil@shepherdok.com

The Mission:

Community Transformation touches multiple strata through education, encouragement and engagement for the development of a stable family healthy community transformed to moral integrity, personal responsibility, and community accountability.

  • Strengthen fathers in the home, leaders in business, congregation, education, and community as well as legislators in all states.
  • Transform this generation of fractured and fatherless families through education, encouragement, and engagement.
  • Move forward toward a better life through relationship and communication training solutions that are research and evidence based.
  • Develop moral integrity, personal responsibility, and community accountability through wisdom based encouragements.
  • Engage and empower individuals in leadership action and network.

How will we do this?

Family and Fathering Weekends

Focused community education and training.

Encouraging Words and A Listening Heart to 7000 legislators.

Encouraging Words and a Listening Heart to 30,000 Pastors.

Encouraging Words to All Who Come.

Cooperative Engagements with Like-Hearted Groups.

Why Do We Do This?

  • The United States leads the world in fatherlessness with over 40% o of our children going to bed without a father present.
  • Our fatherlessness is not just physical.  It is emotional, social, relational, and spiritual.
  • The active presence of a supportive father brings home and community health.  Studies prove that children with this advantage perform better in education, become more caring people, and avoid destructive behaviors.
  • This situation is reflective of the health of our leadership in community, congregation, and home.
  • Good leaders and good fathers are nurturing, committed, caring, alert, aware, involved, protective providers.
  • Good leaders and good fathers are supported and covered in caring community.

We commit to make a difference in the home, the neighborhood, the community, the states, and our nation.

What Is Our Status?

  • All of our successes have been due to great cooperation across the community and the part-time leadership of Phil Larson, our director.
  • Since 2002, numerous fathering and parenting citywide and focused events have been held    in cooperation with the National Center for Fathering, The Oklahoma Family Policy Council, The Oklahoma Department of Human Services, CDC, CBMC, and hundreds of other community groups and congregations.
  • Since 2002, numerous cross denominational and cross cultural events have been held developing leadership community unity.
  • Since 2002, hundreds of thousands of encouraging messages and prayers have been delivered.
  • Today, we reach 3500 legislators in 34 states.
  • Today, we reach 2000+ community leaders in congregations and businesses primarily in the Oklahoma City metro along with the Matamoros metro.
  • Today, we work with Transformers, many of whom are referred from probation and parole, through Life Skills (cognitive self restructuring) and Parenting classes.
  • We understand we need full time leadership to reach the next level of community impact.  Phil Larson has made the missionary commitment to give himself fully to this effort and has exited his business professional position to see this happen.

We are committed to make a difference.

How Can I Help?

  • Finances : The Community Transformation Initiative is an authorized extension of PrayerMetro, Inc., an authorized 501c3 for charitable tax deductible contribution. EIN 11-3664238.  Mail to The Community Transformation Initiative c/o PrayerMetro, 508 Tumbleweed Dr., Yukon,  Oklahoma 73009 or give now by clicking here.
  • Prayer:  Commit to pray with every update, every gift you give, every hour you serve or every day if your heart is so moved.
  • Hands:  This work takes many talents and hands.  What can you give of yourself?
  • Phil Larson 405-388-8037  phil@shepherdok.com

Visibility: Fathers Need In The Dialogue

Fathers are left out of the dialogue.  With a national trend of single mom homes, there has a been a rightful focus on targeting solutions for these families.  Possibly the pendulum swung so far we missed the point?

Fathers must be in the language and in the dialogue.  They must be mentioned, included, and sought after.  The problem includes them, so must the solution.

This quick read article from Canada points out good thought.



There is plenty of research showing how important a father’s involvement can be in a child’s life, but a new study from UQAM suggests this isn’t being translated into public policy in Quebec.