As an educator, Leader, and minister to many families and individuals the greatest ill I find is attachment disorder. We are a nation of orphans. We live in communities of distraction. We struggle to attach with any level of intimacy. Our relationships are volatile and violent. Our attachments are tempestuous and temporary.
The curse of fatherlessness bites at the heels of peace and order and growth. We might love our children. We do not love children. Our entertainment choices are adult choices. Our priorities are financial and fickle. When others do not bend to our will we isolate and do what we want.
This is how an orphan acts. Our communities live as orphans. The heart of the Father Leader has turned from the child. The heart of the child cannot find the father. We are cursed. It is no longer one person’s problem. our communities suffer for Father Leaders.
At a community gathering a young woman in her twenties came to me. She wanted my book Time to Lead. She has heard it was written to men and women in their twenties. It is more than a book she wants. It is a father leader to believe in her that she wants. Orphan eyes pled with me for approval and encouragement and affirmation. Every affirming word spoke, she responded, “That’s right.”
Pastors have retreated into their sermons and maintenance. Politicians have retreated into sound bites and don’t touch leadership. Business and community leaders hide behind legalities and rules. Our communities suffer for the lack of father leaders
My wife and I began working with a few couples recently. Again they cry for father leaders. They have many questions and are looking for love from leaders that is understanding and forthright. The kind a Father Leader would give.
Certainly there are wonderful exceptions. Daily I talk with quality Father Leader pastors, politicians, business, and community leaders. Father Leaders touch the ones they lead. Father Leaders spend windshield time. Father Leaders care.
We cannot give what we do not have. We must provide father leadership. Leaders with Father Hearts must rise come out and live in the streets.
My phone email text and Facebook are flooded. LinkedIn is busy. Parenting class is full of families. The number of simple questions a father should have answered is overwhelming. The questions do not need cheap answers they need Father Leader presence.
Wounded and crippled orphan leaders must heal and attach to Father Leaders.
Do something. Kneel before The Father and do not move until your heart is broken, remodeled, and healed. Study good concepts of fathering instead of shallow actions. Get up and change. Our nation’s return to balanced homes is more important than your 401k, your boat, your retirement, or your personal political preferences. It is an act of compassion from the heart of The Father. Embrace.
p.s. Start with a balanced vision for family. Jump over to this 12 lesson (each less than 3 minutes) series and be inspired. Fix A Family