Decisions take correct cultivation. Practice does not make perfect. Perfect practice makes perfect. To improve my life, I need to find the right regimens to reinforce regardless of short term results. Over time, my decisions will conform.
My golf game is atrocious. My friend tells me, ‘Phil, you need to quit hitting the big ball (planet earth) before you hit the little ball.
But, my golf game is fine. You see, I don’t play golf to win the game. I play golf to spend time with a friend. That part of the game is good and it is what I want to practice.
What is important in your life? Friendships? Finances? Faith? Health? Study to develop right practices.
Most Sundays and Mondays are full of sickness and breakdown reports. As a businessman, pastor, and teacher, people report to me. As a friend, I watch their Facebook feeds and notice which are their worst days. People get sick on Sunday and Monday because they make bad decisons on handling stress every day. It catches up and takes us down with predictable regularity. We crash and burn and call it being sick. Really, we are reaping results of bad eating, working, resting, and stress management. We are sliding.
If I want to greet a great Monday, I start with a rested and worshipful Sunday. It is a decison. I close my Friday or Saturday depending on my work demands with planning for the next week. There is an intentional decision base to my life around which chaos can be controlled.
“A stitch in time saves nine.” We don’t darn socks anymore. Darn it! But we should darn other items. Rest, family and community worship, personal prayer and meditation, study of my career profession, communication with friends, planning, saving, relaxing, and family and friend time all feed my future health and happiness. And the press of life will rob me of them if I don’t decide and make them happen.
‘If your traditions have not changed, you have not changed. You are living an illusion.’
Seasonal traditions should be expressions of your inner man. If you are growing, so should they.
As a father, it is important to know that I am impacting my family. They need to be able to follow me as I follow stronger and stronger patterns of giving, productivity, service, and compassion. Talk is cheap. Action is expensive.
Your family needs to see your example through the filter of traditions. At Thanksgiving, Christmas and Super Bowl are you the same selfless person or do you change based on the wind of the moment and season?
Are you a thankful person or just one who gives thanks when the seasonal tradition demands it? Are you a gracious giver through all seasons or just ones that call on that aspect? Do you have a habit of thankfulness and giving and serving or just a traditional moment?
Contemplate. Your traditions should be expressions of who you are daily with special emphasis on a quality. If they are exhausting, it is probably because you are being untrue to your self and putting on a show for the season instead of expressing yourself with special strength and attention.
As you grow as a father, your daily, weekly, and seasonal traditional expressions should exemplify the character you want repeated in your inner man and your family.