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A Story to Share: Jose and Maria

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The Persistence of Suicide

Every 14.2 minutes a successful suicide

Every 34 seconds an attempted suicide.

Why?

Psychologist, sociologist, and theologian generally agree that suicide means giving up on life.  Someone has reached a point where hope has left the horizon and the pain of living is greater than the desire to live.  That is mega pain.  Instinctually, communally, and in faith we are leaned to living.  Everything about us individually and relational wants to live and gave meaning and purpose.  What happens to destroy such a powerful force in a thriving human?

Every situation is a little different.  One is abused or denigrated or stripped of portions of humananity.  Another meets horrendous circumstance from which there seems no retreat or advance.  A sort of limbo leading to destruction looms in heart and mind. I can’t see my way out so I take what I see.

For some attempted suicides are cries for help and compassion.  They are hoping someone leans into their pain with hope and healing.  But any attempt is an acceptance that you might be successful.

St Augustin in the City of God explored the subject. My summary? On their way to dying, they died.  We are all intended for physical death from the moment of conception.  We are all intended for significance during those minutes or hours or weeks or months or years of life. The two are complimentary. Suicide strips the latter destiny short.

Suicide is certainly not the unforgivable sin.  It does leave an indelible mark on the social soul of the remnant that live. Our questions are unanswerable? Could I have done more? Did I contribute to the angst? Is there something I can do to prevent the next?

The last questions has answers. The first two are personal to your situation and should certainly not to be left unanswered in quiet counsel between you and God and mentor. Social conversations are not the place to seek understanding to these. 

What about, ‘What do I do now for other?’

1. Get trained in mental health first aid. Be a first responder to family and friend.  https://www.mentalhealthfirstaid.org

2. Take an inventory of the people in your 36 square feet of change.  3 ft to your right and left and be for and behind could be someone in distress.  After addressing suicide this week in a conversation, one listener cane to me the next day. “That was me you were discussing. I was that person looking to leave.  Now. I have hope.” I had missed clues, hut now am watching closely.

3. Build your faith foundation. Hope is a powerful force.  Faith is more so.  Faith splits resistive pain with healing balm. Build it. Use it.  Hclive.org

The Think Doctor – Phil

We Are The Difference

worditout-word-cloud-1956501-prudentThis is Black History month, friend. History causes us to reflect on the shadows cast on us by our forefathers. We did not create them, but we are certainly affected by them. A friend shared a picture from 1918 in Arkansas where 237 Black Americans were slaughtered in an effort for the “whites” in the area to assert their control and fear. To put it in perspective, those participating would be the grandparents of those in their 60’s and 70’s today and the great grandparents of the millennials. 100 years is not a long time. The sins of the father go into the third generation and affect their thinking. And the blessings can also.

Friend, we and this generation can break the chains. This generation can set a new standard. If we to chose violence and anarchy, we simply continue the chain. (Read the family facts below on the rising incidence of sexual violence among preteens and teens.) If we chose reason and connection to Christ with moral standards, we can see a different world.

Let’s Pray: In this world, Father, we will have trouble. There is greatness in us. There is greatness in all of us. Yet, trouble tends to bring out the not-so-great in our emotions and actions. Teach us, Father, that hardship is a pathway to peace. Teach us, Father, to accept as Jesus did, this world as it is not as we would have it to be. Teach us to have courage to change what needs to be changed and give us grace to accept with serenity that which is not ours to change.

Family Facts: One of the disturbing trends in our society is violent sex among those at younger and younger ages.
“Significant numbers of teens (15-18) are experiencing emotional and mental abuse as well as violence in their dating relationships; this is even more prevalent among teens that have had sex by the age of 14.” Corporate Alliance to End Partner Violence review of Liz Claiborne study. http://www.caepv.org/getinfo/facts_stats.php?factsec=11
Another look at the impact;
http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/datingviolence

Providing accessible and affordable community education for social skills, problem solving, family, co-parenting, relationships, anger and hurt resolution, and parenting is the right thing to do.

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The Serenity Prayer – by Reinhold Niebuhr (1892-1971)
Complete, Unabridged, Original Version.

God, give us grace to accept with serenity
the things that cannot be changed,
Courage to change the things
which should be changed,
and the Wisdom to distinguish
the one from the other.

Living one day at a time,
Enjoying one moment at a time,
Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace,
Taking, as Jesus did,
This sinful world as it is,
Not as I would have it,
Trusting that You will make all things right,
If I surrender to Your will,
So that I may be reasonably happy in this life,
And supremely happy with You forever in the next.

Amen.

Phil Larson, President ;-{)
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