Fear and failure are faithful teachers of exemplary courage.
Why men aren’t working
The problem is particularly pronounced among men between the ages of 25 and 54, traditionally considered the prime working years. Their participation rate has been declining for decades, but the drop-off accelerated during the recession. The high mark was 98 percent in 1954, and it now stands at 88 percent. A new analysis from the White House’s Council of Economic Advisers, slated for release Monday, found that the United States now has the third-lowest participation rate for “prime-age men” among the world’s developed countries.
What is going on here? Our unemployment statistics are skewed. They don’t include non participants. They don’t include thousands of men, who have taken the low road of living off momma or the taxes of the working people (the government). What is going on here?
Drug overdose is the leading cause of accidental death in the US, with 52,404 lethal drug
overdoses in 2015. Opioid addiction is driving this epidemic, with 20,101 overdose deaths
related to prescription pain relievers, and 12,990 overdose deaths related to heroin in
- 5 Rudd RA, Seth P, David F, Scholl L. Increases in Drug and Opioid-Involved Overdose Deaths — United States, 2010–2015. MMWR Morb Mortal Wkly Rep 2016;65:1445–1452. DOI: http://dx.doi.org/10.15585/mmwr.mm655051e1
Now, we have to face this other incredible factor of fear. Suicide is climbing. It is attacking older and older Americans as a outcome of choice. Why come to the place of abject despair and check out?
Preponderance of violent death in teens and white men.
In a follow-up to their groundbreaking 2015 work, they say that a lack of steady, well-paying jobs for whites without college degrees has caused pain, distress and social dysfunction to build up over time. The mortality rate for that group, ages 45 to 54, increased by a half percent each year from 1999 to 2013. NPR
Violent death among older white men and younger everyone is disturbing. Why would youth and aged both take the same path?
Past failures predict strength http://www.nytimes.com/2011/01/04/health/04mind.html?mwrsm=Email&_r=0
In short, the findings suggest that mental toughness is something like the physical strength: It cannot develop without exercise, and it breaks down when overworked. Some people in the study reported having had more than a dozen stressful events, and it showed.
With all of the preponderance of death stands this oppositional study, or is it? When you dig through the details you find that a few disasters, deaths, job loss build strength. A continual stream destroys the internal engine of the mind and negates natural resiliency, come back power.
Job loss is one of the most powerful of all forces of destruction, especially when you had no input to the issues. Losing a job is one of the most stressful life experiences, so it’s normal to feel angry, hurt, depressed, scared, grief at all that you’ve lost, or anxious about what the future holds. Job loss and unemployment involves a lot of change all at once which can rock your sense of purpose and self-esteem. While the stress can seem overwhelming, there are many things you can do to take control of the situation, maintain your spirits, and come out of this difficult period stronger and more resilient. https://www.helpguide.org/articles/stress/job-loss-and-unemployment-stress.htm
A person who has six high intensity items in a period of a few years ends up in a destructive phase. Death, job loss, car wreck, divorce, debilitating disease, etc tear at the mental fabric of the soul. Given time to rebound and rebuild, we become stronger. Given a flurry and no time to rebuild and we find ourselves destroyed.
He is faithful even when we think ourselves faithless.
I kings 19:4
3 Elijah was afraid[a] and ran for his life. When he came to Beersheba in Judah, he left his servant there, 4 while he himself went a day’s journey into the wilderness. He came to a broom bush, sat down under it and prayed that he might die. “I have had enough, Lord,” he said. “Take my life; I am no better than my ancestors.” 5 Then he lay down under the bush and fell asleep.
1 Timothy 2: 8 Remember Jesus Christ, raised from the dead, descended from David. This is my gospel, 9 for which I am suffering even to the point of being chained like a criminal. But God’s word is not chained. 10 Therefore I endure everything for the sake of the elect, that they too may obtain the salvation that is in Christ Jesus, with eternal glory.
11 Here is a trustworthy saying:
If we died with him,
we will also live with him;
12 if we endure,
we will also reign with him.
If we disown him,
he will also disown us;
13 if we are faithless,
he remains faithful,
for he cannot disown himself.
14 Keep reminding God’s people of these things
So How Do We Respond in Covenant?
Elijah had a covenant with God based on faithfulness. Elijah submitted himself as a servant to God to follow His ways. God committed Himself in faithfulness to provide a successful life. True, that life could be tough at times, but always coming to a good end.
When we are pressed to the wall in life there are a few tips to bouncing back well and being stronger for the next thing.
- Get busy bouncing back as quickly as possible. The longer you dwell on the downside, the longer your pain and the less your resiliency for the next issue. Now, give yourself some space. A major downside can take 3-5 years to process the grief. But that does not mean you have to dwell on it and live in it. You can begin being active on the solutions rapidly. Elijah took a vacation to the mountains and looked for restoration. He then came back into the world and began a big journey.
- Engage others. Elijah went to Elisha and others as soon as he brought his head up. He had been on a lonely trek for many years as part of his journey and service. It was time to get into the group and let others hold him up. Don’t walk alone.
- Listen to the voice of your biggest supporter. Elijah’s biggest supporter was God. I pray your biggest supporter is God. If you allow Him to be, He is. But if you have not reached that point of friendship with God, then allow Him to speak through someone else. Your biggest supporter might know you better than you know yourself on the downside.
- Surround yourself with empowering voices. I hate to say this, but people who love us might be the worst in a time of big pain. They will drag you back to where you were when the pain happened. That might not be a good place to go. If we go back to where we were, we will come back to where we are. Remember that.
- Do something. Okay. Quit the pity party. Get up and be a servant of faith. Serve. Serve. Serve others. Quit seeking your solution and be the solution for others.