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Addressing Life Challenges

“Since about half the adults in the US will live in a diagnose-able mental health condition of depression or anxiety or another issue, that means it is either you or me. And if it is you, it is still me because you are my neighbor.”  Phil’s Attitude

Normal Living Results in Mental Strain

Stress.  Strain. Struggle.  We do that.  We call it life. The pressure of performance, the pain of loss and disappointment, and the overwhelming unmet urges of our human relationships fracture our mental and emotional stability.   Nothing is new or wrong about that .  About half the adult population will walk through a diagnose-able mental health issue in their life time.  On any given day over 18% are in the struggle.  Okay, so that is as normal as the flu.

Avoidance Does Not Help

When a co-worker, family member, or friend has the flu, we rally around them.  We take extra shifts so they can rest and recoup.  We ask how they are treating it and make suggestions.

When the same person is depressed or anxious, we hide.  We avoid them.  We isolate and make the problem worse. We become contributors to their disturbance instead of supporters of health. Why do we do that?

Employers Are Afraid

Though most C levels are concerned for colleague welfare because that affects the bottom line profits, they avoid compassionate touch.  Send them to the HR outside support group to which research says they do not go.  Sponsor a certain number of hours of  psychological assistance to which a person suffering depression or anxiety is likely to wait an average of ten years to seek out.  These things don’t work.  They are nice and cover the legal requirements, but they don’t work. Supervisors, managers, and directors are instructed to stay hands off or write them up for unacceptable work behaviors and suffering colleagues spin down.  Quality employees with a short term treatable condition are left to die.  That is not always the case.

As a director/manager/supervisor for 35 years in healthcare, insurance, non-profit, and retail organizations, I have not seen it all.  But I have seen a lot and been through continual training in what to do and what not to do.  It needs to change.  Colleagues need friendship and a compassionate ear.  Employers need to express their care and concern outside of parties and bonuses.  The workplace is suffering.  Social structures of church and community clubs have burned down to low impact.

The Solution is Not Complicated

Compassionate and concerned employers and to be honest employers who know if they do something they will make more profits are taking action.  They are boldly empowering the workforce to care, to listen, to come alongside. Mental Health First Aid is not complicated, but it does take training.  It takes right approach.   GET TRAINING FOR YOUR WORKFORCE. GET TRAINING

  • Make an appointment with Phil and we will customize for you.
  • Register for one of our open community events and come see for yourself how you can be a better boss, parent, partner, friend to those around you.
  • Invest some time searching for mental health first aid on your favorite business website feed or twitter or linkedin and see what comes up.
  • Do something.  People count.

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How Do I Overcome Anger?

lifaqsThis is a tough one, right?  Anger can have a stronghold worse than any addiction.  If fact, it may be a feeder to an addiction.  Do you find yourself drinking because you want to calm the inner beast?  It happens.

Anger escalates.  It starts small and then erupts into a seething blast of inappropriate words and actions.  It can really get us into trouble, destroy relationships and lead into major depressive episodes.

It can be conquered.  You can have a better life forward.

Good Answer:

Anger has a few roots.  One of those is your CORE VALUE.  Building your inner core value is much like an athlete developing their CORE.  We can help you with that at SOLUM.  First ask yourself some quick questions?  Go to this link to give yourself a quick assessment of where you stand in regard to anger.  BE HONEST with yourself.

IS ANGER GETTING CONTROL OF ME?

Whew, now you see some things you might not have seen.  You have good choices at SOLUM CTI.  Get into an action based solution. SOLUM Community offers a 90 break through workshop – THINK – based on research and evidence based cognitive self restructuring.  If you issue is a light anger, that is a great place to start and you will build skills for a lifetime.  This is a good place to start and it will get you moving on a decisive path.THINK Click Here for Schedule and more information.

But it might not be enough.  We have three upcoming six week workshops for men only and for women only to address Anger/Loss/Addiction that I strongly recommend.  You are not going to break anger in a minute or through any quick fix.  You need to contact me now to get into one of these.  NOW.  phil@shepherdok.com 

God Answer:

Get really serious. God cares and is ready to help you through this situation. Pray with me below.  Get God on your side. Scroll down and pray with me right now. Connect with a committed accountability coach and  study through Celebrate Recovery 25 lessons.  This is discipleship based change.  Usually six months is involved.  Jeremiah 17:14  Heal me, O Lord, and I shall be healed; Save me, and I shall be saved, For You are my praise.

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Disclaimer: Suggestions given here are not meant to replace professional counseling. They are meant to get you started on a journey to a better life forward.

Givers Choice:  You’ve picked up some value today for free. What about others?  Pay it forward.  Make a tax deductible donation so we can keep helping others.  PayItForward

How Do I Break An Addiction?

lifaqsEvery week someone comes to me with this question.  They may or may not ask it outright. Recently a woman appeared at the door of our community center looking for this answer. She has four children in state custody.  Her life is spinning.   She is battling addiction to prescription drugs originally given for a plaguing back condition.  This is common.  Where do you start?

Good Answer:

Addictions are most often tied to your emotions.  Ask yourself some tough questions.  What is it that drives me to choose the addictive habit or substance?  What feeling or emotions tend to precede my addictive choices?  Is there a frustration underlying my choices that keeps repeating? Get into an action based solution. SOLUM Community offers a 90 break through workshop – THINK – based on research and evidence based cognitive self restructuring.  You are not going to break an addiction in a minute or through any quick fix.  This is a good place to start and it will get you moving on a decisive path.THINK Click Here for Schedule and more information

God Answer:

Get really serious. God cares and is ready to help you through this situation. Pray with me below.  Get God on your side. Scroll down and pray with me right now. Connect with a committed accountability coach and  study through Celebrate Recovery 25 lessons.  This is discipleship based change.  Usually six months is involved.  Jeremiah 17:14  Heal me, O Lord, and I shall be healed; Save me, and I shall be saved, For You are my praise.

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Disclaimer: Suggestions given here are not meant to replace professional counseling. They are meant to get you started on a journey to a better life forward.

Givers Choice:  You’ve picked up some value today for free. What about others?  Pay it forward.  Make a tax deductible donation so we can keep helping others.  PayItForward