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THINK!

SOLUM promotes thinking. Through studied application of cognitive restructuring, social skills, and problem resolution regimens a life can move forward. We see results daily.

In a recent study on mindfulness, it is determined that great logical thinkers like engineering students can develop better creativity also. So THINK is for all stages of economic and creative success? Yes.

How Mindfulness Can Help Engineers Solve Problems

Our January sessions start this Monday at 7pm. Take time to develop your creativity. Our average graduate increases their skills in core areas of thinking, social skills, and problem resolution by 200 to 300 percent. That is good stuff for you, your workplace and your family and friends. Anger reduces. Life is brighter. Who would not want that?

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Contact me, the THINK Dr, Phil at phil@solumcommunity.net 940.580.4887

DADS, BE IMPORTANT AGAIN.

Cultural struggles tend to emphasize one area over another. Truthfully, many times many areas are important all at the same time. Dads are always important. Moms are always important. Grandparents are always important.

Recently, Dr. Ken Canfield, and a team bring life back to fathers.com (Fathers Are Important) and the fathering movement. It seems to have died out across the nation and become focused on the broken percentage of dads that were out of the mix. I am proud to be a part of that team and I encourage you to do your part in your home. Get in the mix. Put yourself back in the driver seat alongside the mother of your children.

Lifelong dads. Kids need ’em.

You are important. Live your role. 42% of kids have no father at home. Be one of the 58% of fathers that stay committed. 41% of children are born without a marriage. Be one of the 59% that have children in the safety and security of a committed relationship in marriage. Be the one.

Make fathering fashionable for your family.

Take a few minutes or hours and peruse the refreshed http://fathers.com. Put some holiday tips to work. Leave a donation for the team to be encouraged.

Family and Parenting Tip: Separate from Violence

Family and Parenting Tip: separate Yourself and Your Family from the Violent and the Scoffers
The better part of mercy is discretion. Research shows over and over that exposure to emotional, sexual, and physical violence destroys us physically and limits our future. That violence may be coming from a family member or a constant video game or Netflix or the movie theater or internet pornography. It may be promoted by a political party or even a church.
By exposing our hearts and minds to abusive and invalidating and demeaning images and relationships, we kill pieces of ourselves, injure our ability to make healthy attachments, and become channels of deatruction to ourselves and others. What you take in is what you give out.
Get containment over your family.
Discuss the violence you see in politics and the world with your family.
Promote peaceful and respectful relationships and words.
Break off friendship time with scornful and bitter people.
Be courageous to protect the trust of body, mind, emotions, and relationships.
Break cycles of denial in your personal life. When we stay in an unhealthy relationship we damage ourselves and everyone around us. The controller uses our compassion to poison our souls. Others that we love and have a good heart are as offended by us as we are offended by the controller. We become carriers of pain and poison.
Really love those you love. Break away from controlling and angry people. Put up barriers of time and space. Love those who love you and build a healthy and safe life.

The SOLUM Community of Texoma I-35 Corridor

The hospitality of North Texas has been my joy for four years living in Gainesville. It is a continuing encouragement. That hospitality and a remnant of a strong-hearted people committed to family living, personal responsibility, moral integrity, and community accountability encourages me.

In the same years my joy is complete living in my other two cities, Oklahoma City and Crowder, Oklahoma on Lake Eufaula. Few get the joy of such a life.  Diligent work has afforded me ten bedrooms where I can lay my head any day, while some have none.

In the face of a disunity and discontent across our nation and in our local neighborhoods, some must take a stand for a new vision. In 2011, at the dare of 25 members of the Oklahoma House of Representatives. I locked in my cabin and finished research and editing on Time To Lead. While studying leaders in business, government, community, religion, and education, who led cultural change, a few principles became evident. 26 actions of one of the greatest world changers, Hezekiah, turned up in other men and women through history. Hezekiah lived all 26, the others like Ronald Reagan and Bill Clinton and Nelson Mandela and Martin Luther and Mother Teresa lived a few. Hezekiah at age 25 alongside his friends overturned a nation steeped in violence and abuse and self-destruction. The new norm became moral integrity, personal responsibility and community accountability. Given nothing but bad example by his father the king and that family, his course became set through faith and diligent study of national and relational principles that have stood the test of over 2700 years.

In 2012, I made the journey from corporate management and community engagement at city-wide levels to community engagement at the face to face level full time.

It is not my wish to replace Hezekiah in history. It is my wish to influence our national and neighborhood ripples.  Ripples make change.  Research in cultural change tell us that it only takes 10% of an area strongly adopting a philosophy or action to effect total change.  That is the tipping point.

The challenge of a life well lived from personal mentors like Dr. Ken Canfield, founder of the National Center Dr Fathering, and advisor to presidents and Dr. Frank Tunstall, international leader in missions, writer, university president and bishop, speak to me daily.  One person can make a difference.  You can be that one person.  I can be that one person.  Someone we don’t know yet can be that one person.

In 2014, that journey brought me to Gainesville alongside our other endeavors.

In our four years in this community, we have seen 307 graduates of 90 day workshops on congruent thinking and behavior, goal oriented life, strong and safe relationships, and resiliency under trauma.  Each goes back and changes their world.  20 hours and 90 days with weekly homework, discussion, action oriented is enough to build a different direction.  These are those on adult probation, juvenile probation, caregivers, parents, and some struggling with dysfunctional lifestyles advances enough to have children in foster care.  We work with the struggling and the wounded.  And we see results.

H is the daughter of one participant.  Mom took the life lessons home and reconnected with H.  H worked with me for 6 months across the glass in County Jail and built a new future.  She spent a year in rehab prison and is successfully living in Ft. Worth in a halfway house making a life transition.  Three boys relate to their grandfather for the first time in their life.  Four families are changed for good forever in the county through one mom taking what she learned to her daughters and ex-husband.

D lived addicted to meth for 14 years.  Through a workshop he changed his direction. He is now 4 years clean and works side by side with me encouraging others every week.  He has a good job and is being an involved father to his young daughter that she never had. 3.5 years later.

J came fresh from prison and was living in the Brother’s House.  In a workshop, he grumbled and struggled.  Then he connected. He began living principles of responding to the anger of others in such a manner that it changed the environment in his life.  He is four years sober and has helped countless others get and stay sober.  He has a good job and contributes to the community 3.5 years later.

W is married with three children.  Some came from his wife’s prior relationships.  He is connected to his children.  Drinking has stopped.  Staying home is important now.  His family is doing well.  2.5 years later.

R came from 30 years in prison and a life sentence for murdering his best friend.  At 52, he was alone on a bicycle.  After six months living with me and working alongside, he worked a good job, bought and paid for a vehicle, reconnected with his family, and is saftely living back in Arkansas, a new man.

On and on I can tell you stories in Cooke County, Texas of lives changed forever.  This is what we do.  This is what you do when are a part of the SOLUM Community.

Let’s skip forward.

There are four issues in our neighborhood and national community.  SOLUM works as a chaplain to 3000 legislators across 34 states.  Pray and encouragement and information on family and child issues go from us regularly.  We are a voice for change.  SOLUM works across hundreds of churches and ministries doing the same.  Leaders need leaders.  The issues we address are not just local, but they are certainly local.

Our nation has become ASOCIAL.  Books like “Bowling Alone” talk to our pain.  Social media has stormed our communications and only recently become face to face.  I do bible studies weekly linking people in Mexico and multiple states in the USA. Something is moving to change that.

Here in Gainesville, families take their children to neighboring cities for education, while some of the greatest educators in the nation lead our schools.  Why?  Why leave the community of concern and competency to go somewhere less connected to my neighborhood?  Is it part of that ASOCIAL thought train?  Something else?

Pablo De Santiago reported to me that last week 110 showed up for Watch DOGS at Edison Elementary.  Committed to show up, promote families with both parents engaged, display fathering as fashionable, make a difference.  That is huge.  Trust me. We have over 3000 Watch DOGS programs nationally, and 110 is big news.  Wow.  Attendance in our Gainesville schools has been climbing year over year under the watchful guidance of Dr. Brasher.  We have a future.

Our churches are losing attendance nationally and locally.  It is a group of 77 churches with a heart to change the new urban/rural communities that sponsored me to come here in the beginning.  Our community groups are losing connection locally and nationally.  We need a community connection.

Our nation has become AMORAL. Since 1960 the ASOCIAL trend has also become a lack of moral center.  There is little community standard.  Our standard today for business and community is “stay legal” or find a way around it.  That is not much of a standard.  Hammurabi had a code.  The English had the Magna Carta.  We are vacant.  Church attendance, a good measure of moral center has gone from 60% to 15% and is dropping.  East Coast is less than 2%.  Our own high school is less than 4% and headed down.  My pastor friend in Franklin, New Hampshire was ecstatic recently.  This town of 15000 in a county of 45000 is one of the 2% areas.  In Franklin there is the Catholic Church and his church, not many more.  Certainly, not the hundred we have here.  Another church started.  He is happy.  We work with him on community impact.  We need a moral standard.  It comes from a 10% adherence to a standard and a vocal discourse that puts it in front of others.  Right now, we can’t even agree on a national anthem.

Our nation and neighborhood has become AMARITAL.  It is not about the definition of marriage.  It is about marriage at all. Two weeks ago in a teen group I lead I asked about goals.  Where do you see yourself in relationships?  One 14-year-old responded, “I want a normal relationship.  I’m not going to get married.”  I work with her mom also.  All the teens in the room nodded approval except 2.  7 out of 9 of our future believe marriage is not normal.  41% of children today are born with no marriage.  That is unheard of in history.  What have we become in Cooke County and beyond?  Thank God for men and parent and teachers like Edison that declare a difference.  Get fathers in the game. Get them visible.  Get them committed.  We don’t need sperm donors, the normal name I get for fathers among adults on probation, we need men, fathers, dads, committed and connected.

Our nation and neighborhood has become AMESS.  The violence is incredible.  Our young men in their 20s and 30s make up the highest group involved in domestic violence.  Our teens at 30% carry weapons with intent to use them.  See me about the research. This is reality.  The preponderance of death in youth is violent accidents and suicide in that order.  Men over 55 are making up a new suicide trend.  Opioid addictions are escalating and heroin in back with a vengeance as a cheaper alternative to prescription pain killers and neuropathic drugs for anxiety and depression.  We are a mess.

Gosh, Phil, don’t you love me?  How can you point out all this?  What do we do?

Stay with me.  There are great solutions in motion and we can invent more.  To deny this reality however is to emulate an ostrich with his head in the sand.  It only takes 11% to break the cycle and move a different direction, but they must be adamant, not just interested.  That is only 1600 citizens of Gainesville or 4000 of the county.  It is enough.

While I was online in a FB Radio Live interview based in Oklahoma City in the Black community last week, a young woman from Gainesville asked online, “What can we do?”  Let’s talk about it.

SOLUM works on four fronts alongside other organizations, education, community, government, and churches.  The promotion of personal responsibility, moral integrity, and community accountability in a family environment can bring us a different day for our children and grandchildren and great grandchildren.  Sure, we’ve made a mess of it.  It is our mirror into which we must look. It is our leadership that must step up and stand out.

Our first thrust is with Community Education for sensible thinking and problem solving.  All three areas are addressed.  Good thinking skills, good relational skills, and good problem solving can promote a great life.  Evidence and research based training over 90 days helps settle skills into a potential lifestyle change.  We work with Community Supervision (probation officers) and the courts to make a difference.

Alongside the THINK workshops we do parenting in the same audience and with couples where the state has taken custody due to abuse and neglect.  Get the families stabilized.  Promote family unity.  We’ve seen several families reunited and some that ended in termination.  We will pursue.

Our second thrust is among juvenile probationers.  Through relational and thinking and trauma sensitive evidence and research based workshops, we affect the toughest family situations.  A teen in trouble is a family in trouble.  It usually has many extensions into other families.  Yesterday one of our grads came proudly up to me at his job and talked about his future.  He was on probation every year one year at a time from age 11 to 16.  He is off probation.  One day in the Walmart parking lot someone was yelling. Eventually I discerned it was my name they were yelling.  It was a teen grad six months out.  She came and gave me a hug along with her mother.  She had been on probation for attacking mom and almost killing her.  Now they were friends.  She told me she used her workbook at least once a week at high school to help her make decisions.  We work with the parents that will work with us also.  They attend parenting. There are some great stories here and some heartbreak.

Our third area of thrust is Mental Health First Aid.  As a certified trainer with the National Institute of Behavioral Health, we promote the most accepted response for depression, anxiety, ptsd, suicide, self harm and other pains.  In our lifetime, 42% of adults will have a diagnosable mental health issue, blip, incident, challenge.  That is either me or you and if it affects you then it affects me, too.  You are my neighbor.  Mental Health First Aid is the initial help offered to a person developing a mental health or substance use problem or experiencing a mental health crisis. The first aid is given until appropriate treatment and support are received or until the crisis resolves.  You can be trained.  I believe every adult in the United States should be trained.  I can bandage a cut, I need to be able to apply salve to a wounded heart or mind.

Our fourth area of thrust is direct intervention.  Through onsite personal encouragement and mentorship across the glass at county jail and onsite as a pastoral counselor, we make a difference.  Through developing other pastors and church planters across the nation to do something and engage their ministries in life developing patterns, we make a difference.  Through working on that 10% tipping point of engaged belief that fathers are significant and families count, through talking to you and legislators and other groups and asking you to action, through authoring books and building insight like Time to Lead and By Grace and Manage Well, we make a difference. Through blogging and teaching via social media, we make a difference.

I want you to be a part of that difference.

  • Go to solumcommunity.net and browse. Sign up for mental health first aid. That is the first step to becoming a mentor. Cooke County needs mentors for every Life Skills class both adult and juvenile.  Cooke County needs mentors for parenting.    Coaches. Trained to do the right thing.  You are the difference.
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What Love Is and Why It Matters

What Love Is and Why it Matters:
Love is an overused and under lived term. It is used to justify many actions and accuse others of lack of compassion or sympathy or empathy or pity or interest or active intervention or many of it’s other interpretations and nuances. Interesting that love is used often in accusations, though the nature of love does not accuse.
1 John 4:11 Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought also to love one another.
The standard of love is proactive sacrificial service.
What does this conversation have to do with living and leading? A lot.
When love ceases to be a wanted or needed motivation for success, then congregational, family, and community service is not a service. Politics breeds dissent and dissatisfaction and discouragement and dissonance in an atmosphere of power brokering, control, dominance, greed, and avarice. Politics enters all avenues of life. That is a world without proactive sacrificial service and that is our dilemma.
Love doesn’t parade pain. Ever have that friend that is always talking about how badly life and others treat them? That is not love speaking. That is pride shouting.
As the nation decides on many issues, including the qualities of leadership we desire most in our selection of a president, I encourage you to be true to yourself and the service of your loved ones. Love them. Proactively and sacrificially serve them. We depend on you to have love bouncing around as a core motivation in all you do. Your family depends on you. Your community depends on you. Your congregation depends on you.
Father, fill my friend with love. Attack the demons of disastrous disillusionment and inspire bright hope in a better day. Let my friend see with eyes of service and feel with a heart of goodwill. Let love rule and displace the pain of our nation.
Family Facts: Depression becomes a high impact item in childcare resulting in generational trends.

@considerwell ;-{) #phil@hclive.org

Leave an Opening

fcahuddleA group of businessmen blessed me with a large, framed version of the Influence picture of the FCA some years back. The picture hangs outside my office in Gainesville to remind me that we are being watched. I’ve never been a member of FCA, but as a faith-based initiative I certainly support them.
A prebeliever (that’s somebody who doesn’t get it yet) dropped in recently to volunteer some time to help our outreach. Most of what we get done from cutting grass, cleaning building, event support, etc is done by prebelievers. As we visited, he offered what he saw in the picture. We are faith-based and everyone is welcome and served with respect and dignity.
I see a boy who has been left out and is on his own. The big boys won’t include him.” It hurt. The very picture I hang to remind me to include others does not have a hole in the huddle into which the boy can walk. No one in the huddle has a hand extended to him or a welcome face to invite. Wow. I felt humbled.
It is a great picture and the meaning is solid. We are being watched and we need to be influence for our beliefs, values, principles and practices. But we need holes in our huddles for prebelievers to walk into the circle.
Another prebeliever came by an hour later. He was nervous about coming to a class. As we met, he relaxed. Since it is parenting, I asked if his wife was coming. A big smile erupted on his face. “You mean,she can come, too? What about my kids?” We talked about the kids and decided we could handle it. They all came to class that night and the entire family found a place in the huddle.
Both families are coming to a movie night, another hole in the huddle. If fact, most of the families coming are prebelievers. We’ve left lots of holes in our huddle.
Most people, who read this page, are leaders. I want you to know, there is a hole in the huddle for you also. My door is open, my heart is open, and my love for you is deep.
There are times you feel like the boy in the picture. “Is it safe to approach? Will I be judged because I’m not big, holy, or happening enough? I”ve stubbed my toe on a huge problem and right now I don’t feel worthy, can I fit? Is there a hole in the huddle into which I can fit and relax and be me while I grow into who I want to be?”
Yes, there is a hole in the huddle. eme Stay strong. Don’t stand alone. I am with you.
;-{)‪#‎phil‬@shepherdok.com

The Press

The press of change can destabilize or establish new paths. Our choice can be new and better paths.

Matthew 18:2-4 Jesus called a little child to his side and set him on his feet in the middle of them all. “Believe me,” he said, “unless you change your whole outlook and become like little children you will never enter the kingdom of Heaven. It is the man who can be as humble as this little child who is greatest in the kingdom of Heaven.

The message is simple. Be simple about change.  It is not complicated. What needs to change to move closer to the target?  What is the target?  Can it be done with simplicity, fairness, equity, and justice?  Then it can be done.
A young man with whom I am working has spent his life in drugs, gangs, cartels, and prisons.  From 9 to 30, that has been his lifestyle.  Now he is pursuing another direction.  His goal is different.  His goal is to enjoy life legally and justly.  It is tough, but it is simple.  We talk a little every day because every day presents new issues along the path.  Eventually, he will walk on his own.  We start change as children.  That’s the key.  Simple and clean.
Prayer:  Father, I pray for my friend and all the changes in the path.  Our nation, our homes, and our lives are challenged with fear and disruption.  Yet, the goal has not changed. Make simple and clear steps easy to see for my friend.  Help my friend sort through the clutter and the noise and target just and appropriate action.
Family Facts: As we enter a new chapter at SOLUM CTI, I thought I’d drop a fact a week in these missives.  It is our families that make this nation strong.  It is our families that are under the greatest strain.
Did you know?  It is reported 48% of all new births are into never married situations.  This is a recent trend.  It is not teenagers.  It is adults.  Most studies I have seen put this around 41-43%.  This study reports higher.
What can you do about it? If you are married, invest in your marriage to keep it healthy. Be an example.  If you are a policy maker, participate in family information initiatives in your community.  Be visible.
Phil Larson, President ;-{)
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Vision Must Be Refreshed

Community Transformation Initiative has a great reputation. How do you improve what you are doing and how you present yourself?  In marketing, we call that “rebranding”. Recast the image.  As our success grows working with struggling families, it is time  to put on a new suit of clothes.

1. SOLUM is Latin for soil or foundation.   What we do is invest in the soil of hurting lives with fresh thought that can repair fractured foundations and launch a new future solid enough for generations.

2. The two leave image can be interpreted two ways. Some look and say, “It means someone comes alongside me and is helping me build a better life forward.”  Others look and say, “It means when I change it affects those around me also.”  Those are quotes from grads of our workshops, when I asked them to help with the new imagery.

3. Solid Life Foundations – Yes, we work at the foundational level of thought, social skills, and problem solving assisting those that come to us with cognitive self restructuring. That means they have to chose.  They have to build themselves up from the inside out. We assist and expose and challenge.

4. Healthy and Safe Relationships – violence is too prevalent and lack of listening is too common.  We teach how to listen, empathize, understand, and communicate.  These are not common skills.

5. Generations of Greatness – When foundations are rebuilt with solid approach and communication is ongoing, more is caught than taught.  Each workshop is three months, once a week, 20 hours, and includes weekly homework.  These are designed to shift thinking.  Life Skills, Family Builders, Anger Management, Couples Communication. They are all researched and evidence based.   They will speak into the lives of the children of the children of those we connect.

Support Phil and SOLUM – Solid Life Foundations:

  1. Need a motivational speaker?  Call me and connect.  405.388.8037
  2. Need a leadership retreat?   Let’s get it done.  phil@shepherdok.com
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  4. Interested in starting a GrandParent Support group in your area?  Get with me.

Capital Chaos Disturbs Us All: A Call To Pray

joyfulgenerationsPsalm 122:6 Pray for the peace of Jerusalem (your city): they shall prosper that love you. Peace be within the walls (places we all consider safe), and prosperity within the palaces (places of trade and government). For my brethren and companions’ sakes, I will now say, Peace be within thee.
Pray for and plan for the peace of your city.  Leaders do that. Leaders look to ensure right infrastructure is in place.  They plan for economic growth.  Education systems are intentionally developed. Healthcare is situated.  Community arts and social activities are set in place.  And then chaos attacks the peace of the city, the safety of hearts and minds, and the stability of home.
Nothing is more frightening than violence in the home, the safe place.  As we pray for the people of Paris and those assaulted in the Russion airliner and the thousands slaughtered in Syria and other countries, we pray for our cities and our homes.  The world is an unsafe place.  It has been greatly disturbed.  Our own schools and streets experience ever increasing violence. Even as we acknowledge these atrocities and attacks on peace of mind and stability, remember that one out of three women report being violently assaulted in their lifetime, one out of four young women will be sexually abused by age 16, 41% of our children are being born into never secure, never married homes.  While murder rages in the streets and skies, our homes are on fire from within.
Pray for both today.  Pray for our homes.  Pray for our safety.  Pray for your home, your city, and pray globally.
Father, we have lost touch with what is most important to You.  You call Yourself, Father, the Protector and Provider of homes and cities and nations.  Our guard is down.  Our lives are strewn to chaos.  Our streets are not safe from without or from within.  We are most heartily sorry for our part, Father.
Father, teach us.  Instruct us in ways that lead to peace and prosperity.  Take us to secure homes and undisturbed cities and schools and theaters and meeting places.  Refugees scatter across our world and find no peace in the next place.  God, grant us peace. 

Unnerved – The Community Solution

Right and effective research pushes the boundaries of accepted thought.  While political pundits push socially acceptable and emotionally provoking concepts at the public mind as if they were truth, are they?  In a minute I’ll tell you a fresh story of one of our Transformers, a person moving from struggling to secure. Right now, let’s debunk based on research not politics.

EDUCATED:

1. Poverty is not a race issue.  67% of all U. S. individuals in poverty are white.

2. Poverty is not totally caused by systems and exploitation.  Individual choices, addiction, illness, war, lack of education, lack of employment, mindsets, disabilities, and thinking play big roles.

3. Wealthy people pay taxes. 67.9% of U.S. federal taxes were paid by the top 20% of households in 2009.

CONNECTED: Okay, that is enough debunking.  There is more to come.  Thekey to change involves feeling the pain of staying the same, getting a vision or goal, applying your talent and skill, and connecting with a mentor to help you bridge from where you are to where you want to go.

UNNERVED: Jack (name changed) exploded excitedly into his story this week.  After six weeks of THINK!, his life story changed.  After doing some work, the business owner refused to pay.

“I was ready to call and cuss him out and get angry like I normally do, ” declared Jack. “But, I reminded myself I had new social skills from THINK!. If I did that he probably would hang up and never pay me.”

Jack at this point did exactly what he had been taught through role playing, music, video, discussion, interaction, personal application homework and instruction. He paused, cooled down, set goal, decided what skills to use (active listening, asking questions, responding to anger, and negotiating) made a plan, picked up the phone and went to work getting his money.

With his new approach, Jack talked to the owner, then talked to the work supervisor, then talked to his workmate. Each contributed information that the other person needed.  The owner not only gladly paid Jack the $450 he owed, but gave him a $100 bonus because of the professional way he handled the situation and offered him more work.

Jack unnerved himself. He disconnected decades of bad example, incorrect socialization, and nervous energy.  Then he connected a new thought source.  Now he has a powerful life altering story of applying a restructured approach. He is transforming himself and his family.  He is unnerving a dysfunctional set of anxieties and approaches and reconnecting a new set of productive nerve endings.

THE COMMUNITY SOLUTION needs your gift.  It is simple. What we do changes lives.  What we do opens doors for a better life forward.  What we do takes money.  You can put life change into the hands of Jack, who now brings his partner to class and she is changing alongside.  GIVE.  Text   thinkcti   to 77977 and you will receive a secure link back.  Or go the thinkcti.org/give   and get info on giving by check.   Use your skill and heart to help others.  Help another Jack.GIVE