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Family and Parenting Tip: Separate from Violence

Family and Parenting Tip: separate Yourself and Your Family from the Violent and the Scoffers
The better part of mercy is discretion. Research shows over and over that exposure to emotional, sexual, and physical violence destroys us physically and limits our future. That violence may be coming from a family member or a constant video game or Netflix or the movie theater or internet pornography. It may be promoted by a political party or even a church.
By exposing our hearts and minds to abusive and invalidating and demeaning images and relationships, we kill pieces of ourselves, injure our ability to make healthy attachments, and become channels of deatruction to ourselves and others. What you take in is what you give out.
Get containment over your family.
Discuss the violence you see in politics and the world with your family.
Promote peaceful and respectful relationships and words.
Break off friendship time with scornful and bitter people.
Be courageous to protect the trust of body, mind, emotions, and relationships.
Break cycles of denial in your personal life. When we stay in an unhealthy relationship we damage ourselves and everyone around us. The controller uses our compassion to poison our souls. Others that we love and have a good heart are as offended by us as we are offended by the controller. We become carriers of pain and poison.
Really love those you love. Break away from controlling and angry people. Put up barriers of time and space. Love those who love you and build a healthy and safe life.

Help Phil, David, Norm, Michelle – FAMILIES!

dadsherosoklahomansnapWho is CTI? CTI is a skill building, problem solving assistance for individuals and families and communities. We use research and evidence based approaches alongside personal intervention strategies focused on fathering, parenting, and relationship. Life Skills, Dad’s University, and Family Builders course approaches put feet on the ground in the community. Joint events open new eyes with information and influence.

What are we chasing? Community change to moral integrity, personal responsibility, and community accountability from the household to influencers in government, education, business, religion, and community. We want responsible and healthy fathering and families and friendships to be fashionable and desired.

What differentiates? No fear. From curbside to board room. Community networking and integration of efforts.

A Short Story

A few twenty-somethings working on life skills wrote these notes back. It is a next step in a good direction for each of them.
I believe I have learned to know now what my true feeling are, and how to act when I feel angry.
I’ve learned : Understanding how I got here. Negotiating problems. Responding to anger.
I am better at talking to people. I also know how to control my anger better.
I’d like to help others the way I wanted to get helped
To step back and think about the issue, problem, or analyze the scenario fully before you attempt to deal with it to get the best possible outcome.
I know what I have wanted to change but laying it all (out) has really helped me put my plans into action.

That is real stuff. Real curbside change. It is a start. It is a good start for them, their children, their families, and their friends.

Join us!
www.communitytransformationinitiative.org/the-giving-page

Support with your time, talent, and treasure.

Help me.  Help Phil, David, Norm, Michelle.  Help families get stronger.

A hard question comes to me often. What do you do when the foundations are destroyed?
Respond to fractured families, uncommitted fathers, divorce as a lifestyle, addiction and co-dependency as a normative, violence as a status quo, and me-ism as the accepted point of decision. Hmmm. Move that cultural malaise to moral integrity, personal responsibility, and community accountability. Stabilize and repair and launch into positive success one person, one family, one neighborhood, one community, one state, and one nation at a time.
The answer is simple but not easy. If it was easy, it would be over. The battle rages. It must be fought.

Community Transformation Initiative

Educating – Empowering – Engaging

The Community Transformation Initiative

We commit to a better life for our community. We commit to a life full of graciousness and peace.  We commit to develop fathers, parents, and community leaders full of grace and peace.  We commit to offer this grace and peace in education, events, and encouragement.

How will we do this?

Family and Fathering Weekends

Encouraging Words to 7000 legislators.

Encouraging Words to 10,000 pastors.

Encouraging Words to all who will listen.

Cooperative engagements with like-hearted groups.

Why Do We Do This?

  • The United States leads the world in fatherlessness with over 40% o of our children going to bed without a father present.
  • Our fatherlessness is not just physical.  It is emotional, social, relational, and spiritual.
  • The active presence of a supportive father brings home and community health.  Studies prove that children with this advantage perform better in education, become more caring people, and avoid destructive behaviors.
  • This situation is reflective of the health of our leadership in community, congregation, and home.
  • Good leaders and good fathers are nurturing, committed, caring, alert, aware, involved, protective providers.
  • Good leaders and good fathers are supported and covered in caring community.

We commit to make a difference in the home, the neighborhood, the community, the states, and our nation.

What Is Our Status?

  • All of our successes have been due to great cooperation across the community and the part-time leadership of Phil Larson, our director.
  • Since 2002, numerous fathering and parenting citywide and focused events have been held    in cooperation with the National Center for Fathering, The Oklahoma Family Policy Council, The Oklahoma Department of Human Services, CDC, CBMC, and hundreds of other community groups and congregations.
  • Since 2002, numerous cross denominational and cross cultural events have been held developing leadership community unity.
  • Since 2002, hundreds of thousands of encouraging messages and prayers have been delivered.
  • Today, we reach 2808 legislators in 22 states.
  • Today, we reach 2000+ community leaders in congregations and businesses primarily in the Oklahoma City metro along with the Matamoros metro.
  • We understand we need full time leadership to reach the next level of community impact.  Phil Larson has made the missionary commitment to give himself fully to this effort and has exited his business professional position to see this happen.

We are committed to make a difference.